A most moving and award-winning headstone

THARP PHOTOThis has to be one of the most moving memorials I’ve ever seen. It’s in America and it’s of a young 20 year old girl and at first glance it looks as though there is a full size sculpture of her sitting atop the headstone.


P1070303However if you look from the side you can see that it is only ( I say “only” but it’s truly a work of art) an etching of her.

It also has  a 3D effect as it looks as though she’s looking at you from whatever angle you look at her from.

The more I look at this memorial the more amazed I am at the skill of the person who etched her. Unfortunately I doubt there’s a cemetery in the UK that would allow it now although in times gone by it certainly would have been.  It would be an honour to be involved in producing this type of memorial.



It’s only natural to think  that  the inscription and photos or designs are placed only on the front of the memorial but if you approach the memorial from behind it is sometimes difficult to see exactly where it is especially if there are many other headstones around it.

Therefore consider placing something on the back. In a cemetery local to us there is one area where most people approach it from this direction. Not surprisingly, although only gradual at fist, putting a design or the deceased’s name or nickname on the back has become a very common pratice. We’ve even placed whole poems that meant a great deal to the client  on the back as there wasn’t room on the front especially if two names were required there eventually.

Ever considered putting something on the sides of the headstone? This might seem odd at first as they are usually only 3″ – 4″ wide but flowers and crosses are sometimes found here and if done correctly can greatly enhance the look of the memorial as well as make it unique.

Let your imagination run when thinking about what wording and designs you wish to say or have  on any memorial. Sometimes there’s room and sometimes not but a good mason should always be able to offer something workable.

Deciding on the wording is always very difficult – indeed many people have said it is harder than the funeral itself – so I hope this post  has helped you in some way.



Jim Crossman